While it is claimed that the decision was a mutual one, the split is said to be a blow to the Oscar-winning actress, 47, who had hoped that this marriage was for keeps after parting ways with first husband Ryan Phillippe 15 years prior.
“Reese is obviously disappointed and upset. She never saw herself getting another divorce,” a source told People.
The source added: “It’s been very difficult for Reese to get to this point. They both concluded this was right for them.”
The insider went on to say that Witherspoon and former talent agent Toth, 52, are simply “two very different people” with her “headstrong and focused,” while he is more “laid-back,” suggesting that the clash of personalities was a contributing factor to things not working out.
That said, they insisted there is “no drama” between them, and their focus is now co-parenting 10-year-old son Tennessee James.
It is also believed that Toth will remain a presence in the lives of Witherspoon’s other children Ava, 23, and Deacon James, 19, from her previous marriage after building up a strong bond with the two over the years.
Witherspoon and Toth confirmed in a joint statement shared to social media on Friday that they were calling time on their relationship, just two days before their twelfth wedding anniversary.
It read: “We have some personal news to share... It is with a great deal of care and consideration that we have made the difficult decision to divorce,” they wrote on social media.
“We have enjoyed so many wonderful years together and are moving forward with deep love, kindness and mutual respect for everything we have created together.”