We Are In Global Mourning — But How You Can Help Is The Same As Always
The death of someone close can be one of the hardest and most distressing things we will ever face.
The way we react to a death is influenced by various things, including our personality, cultural background, faith and our previous experience of loss. However, I know from my 17 years of working in bereavement that two of the most profound effects on our grief can be how the person has died, and our own circumstances whilst we are grieving. Both of these factors have been strongly impacted by Covid-19.
We are all in an unprecedented situation. Across the world, over 40,000 people have tragically died as a result of the coronavirus. This number is hugely tragic, but let’s also not forget that each of those 40,000 people will have a network of many more others who are now bereaved. We are currently facing bereavement on a global scale, with hundreds of thousands left behind.
We know that, along with the extreme sense of loss we can feel when someone dies, there can also be deep shock: grief can feel both extremely raw and unreal at the same time. Imagine then having to isolate in the same house in which you lived together, and perhaps they died in. The anxiety around asking yourself, “Will I be next?” can also be terrifying. We are left both bereft of that person and also fearing for our own lives.
An added difficulty at this time when it comes to grief is the impact on funerals. We have been seeing many tragic reports of people being unable to get to funerals of loved ones or of funerals having to severely limit the number of people that can attend. Having to make decisions like this can be hugely distressing to loved ones, and can exacerbate feelings of grief and angst.
There are no right words to say — but just showing you are there for them, and that you are listening, is so important.
There is no shying away from the fact that we are facing an incredibly difficult time. However, there is a chance to reach out and support people in different ways. If you...
