Woman found videos of partner raping her

Suspecting her fiance was cheating on her, a Melbourne woman logged into his email account and instead found videos of him raping her as she slept.

The man she trusted in a relationship for more than two years has admitted raping her seven times and sexually assaulting her 21 times without her knowledge.

The 34-year-old carpenter and father-of-two cannot be identified.

He pleaded guilty on Monday to three charges of sexual assault and two charges of rape. He will be sentenced as a serious sexual offender.

Prosecutors told the County Court the woman discovered nine emails sent between her partner's personal and work emails, each showing him sexually offending against her while she was asleep.

She could identify herself from her tattoos.

In the early hours of September 19, 2020, the man touched her, undressed her and raped her.

He filmed himself assaulting her again that night and into the next morning as she slept, and again on October 17, 2020.

Some of the videos the woman found were short, lasting only seconds. One went for nearly 12 minutes.

She described feeling significant hurt and disgust that someone she was in a relationship with had betrayed her to such an extent and frustrated that she didn't know what was happening.

The woman felt violated and ashamed, she said, acknowledging the unfairness of her feelings because she hadn't done anything wrong.

"I have no idea how I am supposed to trust anyone in an intimate relationship again in future," she said.

The woman also described her grief at lost relationships with her attacker's children and extended family, people she had come to think of as her own family.

He had a number of supporters in his lawyer's office, where he faced court by video. Ten people also provided references, including his elderly grandmother.

They described him as a man who was decent, kind and fundamentally good, his lawyer said.

A psychologist found he "had an unreasonable apprehension of what consent was and what it wasn't at the time of offending".

But the court heard he was genuinely remorseful for his actions and a "work-in-progress".

His lawyer said the man suffered anxiety about the impact his offending and inevitable imprisonment would have on himself, his parents and wider family and his two daughters.

He will be sentenced at a later date.

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