Don't turn into a Bridezilla while planning your wedding.
Relationships Australia Counsellor Kylie Dunjey offers these great tips for brides under pressure:
Anxiety is normal:
"Expect to be a little anxious. We experience anxiety when we seek to control the uncontrollables. There are plenty of uncontrollables around weddings . . . be mindful of this."
"Sometimes we have unhealthy beliefs that trip us up, things like believing it is possible to make everybody happy. Often it isn't, and we run ourselves ragged trying to achieve the impossible."
"Parents are always of another culture - be it from another country, or just another era. Invest some time discovering what their wedding experience was like. It will help you make sense of some of their expectations and reactions."
Conflict is normal:
"Good communication is always important. Be clear in communicating to family, friends and the hired help exactly what you would like. Let go of perfection."
Remember what it's really about:
"At the end of the day, don't be so consumed about the wedding that you forget the reason for the celebration, the marriage. Be intentional about time together before the day and on the day."
"Self care leading up to the day is very important and the best insulator for the inevitable stressors. There's no point in having perfect hair and nails and feeling like the inside is neglected. Manage your emotional health - good sleep, healthy eating, exercise, meditation and connections with people."
Set the mood:
"In many ways, you set the tone for the day. If things go wrong and you can maintain good humour, then others will join you. No matter how far from the plan things may go, it's your reaction to them that will determine whether your day is spoilt."
For bridesmaids and family:
"Keep advice to a minimum. Uninvited advice is not often well received. Listen, validate and encourage. Know that your conflict will be remembered more than what it was you were fighting for. Offer your help, don't take over."