An Aussie influencer has revealed how she was duped by a catfish while warning others to “watch out and be very aware.”
“I don’t care if people judge me,” Christine Abadir told her 1.9 million followers online.
“I just wanted to spread this so that someone out there can actually be aware that this happens.”
The 22-year-old went on to explain how she had been talking to “this guy” on Instagram for six months despite the red flags.
“Not once did that person video call me, not once did this person FaceTime or give me their number,” she said – but the real warning was how toxic they were.
“[They were] full on asking me that I can’t hang out with my guy mates, I can't go out clubbing, you can't wear certain stuff, cover yourself, don't post this on your story, don't do this, don’t do that.
"Take that as a red flag," she urged.
"It's not possessive or cute. It's actually dangerous and toxic. In a relationship, you should be able to do what you want to do."
But worries aside, Ms Abadir flew from Sydney to New Zealand to meet her mystery man, who called himself Jay Tee.
She was waiting for him outside a nightclub when the penny dropped.
“I messaged him and I'm like, are you here, and he says, yes, and I stand outside asking him to come out,” she said.
“And he tells me, I'm not at Scorpio anymore, I’m at Orange.”
“The red flags were all there [but] I didn't even think it was a catfish until my friends and my mates actually told me.”
Using the mobile number her catfish had eventually given her, Ms Abadir was able to track down her online ‘boyfriend’.
“We check the number of the person and we found out that it was a girl,” she said.
“The whole time it was a f***ing girl."
Social media detectives
Turning to her followers, the 22-year-old used the video, which has since been viewed more than 550,000 times, to ask for help in identifying the man behind the catfish’s photos.
It worked and Ms Abadir was able to “solve the mystery” and FaceTime the real victim.
Despite the ordeal however, the Sydneysider doesn’t appear to hold any grudges against her catfish, who had set up several fake social media accounts as 'Jay Tee'.
She addressed her in a separate video.
“If the girl behind the catfish account reaches out to me, I would be so happy to talk to you and have a good conversation with you,” she said.
“Clearly there's something on your mind and there's also a reason as to why you did it.
“So I'm also giving the opportunity for my catfish to come and talk to me about her life because I know she might be going through some stuff.”
Ms Abadir is now urging others to not follow the same mistake if they meet someone on the internet.
"Be aware," she told her TikTok followers.
“If you like someone online, especially online, video call or FaceTime them to see if they exist.”
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